Life can often throw obstacles our way that we can not control. While we may not be able to control circumstances, we can control how we respond to them. Most people respond with the "Woe is Me" Syndrome (As I affectionately call it) and began to complain and fuss and tell everyone who will listen how Effed up your life is. Well beloveds..that does a few things.
1. Thoughts are Things. What you continue to think about is what you will experience in your life.
2. You are not a victim. Everyone has a story they can complain about. It's time to learn an alternate way of dealing with the stress of life.
3. More times than not.. NO ONE CARES! No one wants to be around a person that is constantly complaining and in a negative state of mind unless they are that way too. Then you feed off of each others negative innergy like parasites. Bouncing it back and forth.
It's time to stop this senseless behavior. While we all have a need to vent, it does us no good to constantly repeat the story of what happened to you (Which you attracted anyway even if you don't see it yet).
How do we Break this Program of Complaining for Conversation Topics?
The 1st thing you can do is to stop complaining. Instead move into a space of gratitude. Start giving thanks to the Creator for what IS GOOD IN YOUR LIFE! It can be simple things that we take for granted like breathing, love, the sun on your face, the ability to read, dance, a roof over your head, musical geniuses like Prince .. I can go on and on. We all have something to be grateful for no matter how hard it may seem to be.
This state of gratitude changes your vibration (and mood) immediately. It all starts in the mind.
Try this in the moment.
When a thought that is not serving you positively ( ie: all senseless complaining and woe is me-izims) enters your mind, counter the thought with a positive one.
Example: Bad things always happen to me! :(
New Thought: I am right where I should be at all times and I don't attract anything that is not in alignment with my purpose on the planet. I accept what is and find the lesson in every situation.
Write out a list of Affirmations.
These are powerful reprogramming tools (like the one above) that help us change our subconscious beliefs that many of us had no control over their instillation. We've been programmed since we arrived. Starting with whatever programs our parents passed to us (which were probably passed to them),followed by social interaction, and the media.
Affirmations can be simple and to the point. In the moment of "Woe is Me-izims" start to write out the list of things you are grateful for and turn those into affirmations. Then read them daily.
For example:I am grateful that I have a safe, warm and secure place to reside.
Affirmation: All of my living needs are always met and I sleep in a warm comfortable environment everyday. For this I give thanks.
They may be as short or as long as you like! They are yours.. and you don't have to share them unless you want to. Don't forget to read the everyday! Over time, you will begin believing these words.. and that my friends is when the magic begins and you will begin to recognize all of the abundance that is Already right here in front of us waiting for us to claim it.
Good luck.. Peace and remember to watch your thoughts, they become your reality!